Letting Go: More Than Physical

In our lives, we have all had to learn how to let people and materialistic things go whether we liked it or not. I do not know about you, but for many years, I had many experiences where letting go was only of physical form. In these past few months, I realized that there was more to letting go. I discovered that the other ways of letting go are mentally and emotionally.

Believe it or not, letting go was once hard for me to do. If a person went ghost, I obviously did not have a choice, but when they chose to come back into my life, I would allow them to come back with no boundaries, and that is where I found myself constantly getting hurt, not understanding that I was only hurting myself. With this said, I did not comprehend the true meaning of self-love and was participating in mindless behavior. Then there was the scenario where if someone rubbed me the wrong way, I would block them. There really was no in between. Unfortunately, I had to learn this lesson over and over and over, until I had NOTHING to identify with.

To keep a long story short, earlier this year, I lost my car, my job, and my relationship all within a several weeks time span. To be honest, it did not feel good whatsoever. Everything was moving in the right direction, and then BOOM, everything was gone. I was finally getting closer to reaching basic goals that I worked towards for a long time, but somewhere along the way, I did not see how my ego got the best of me. I was distracted by many things in life, such as people pleasing, not taking time for myself because my environment was not fitting for me at the moment and constantly given suggestions that were not even asked for. All of these things led to a lot of voices in my head, therefore, my mind was very clouded of what I truly wanted for myself and I happened to attach myself to people and physical things in a very unhealthy way.

Although I lost so much in a short amount of time, this eye-opening experience made me more mentally and emotionally available for myself. I forced myself to look at the root issue, which was my childhood trauma, how I felt about it and coming to acceptance with it in order for me to move forward; as well as unlearn my old mental and emotional patterns. During the time of looking for work, I started to incorporate affirmations, meditations and journaling in my daily routine. FYI, I also recommend you to surround yourself with reassuring people who will check on you during a difficult time in life whether they are local or not. It made it a bit easier to get through this time, even if I felt like I was a burden. Yes, I know I was not a burden, but I was in a VERY confused state because I did not understand who I was without blaming someone. It definitely took me a while to completely be vulnerable. It was very uncomfortable because once you take that first step to change yourself, your ego will challenge you to continue to blame others. Just understand when you reach the point of recreating yourself, there is no one to blame. From this point on, taking accountability for your own actions is a must. I learned this once I started to dive into deeper self-work, such as listening to Oprah’s podcast, Super Soul Conversations. I suggest anyone to listen if your goal is to put the ego to sleep and be more present in life. I listen to at least one episode at work and by doing so, it has transformed my mindset tremendously by gaining more clarity and peace.

Despite this tough time, I am forever grateful and blessed as a 25-year-old to learn this lesson now, rather than later. It was difficult, but I am in alignment and have a more positive mindset. Evolving is a life long process and as long as I am better than who I was yesterday, that is all that matters to me. Please grasp from this blog, no matter what you go through, it is honestly to help others in life. I started this blog on Saturday, April 14th, but my mind was too clouded, and I knew I needed to learn a bit more for it to fulfill its purpose.

Any time you go through something, please understand there is always a lesson to learn. Its job is to aid you in your present moment. It is unwise to think of the future when it is not here yet, because it is about the actions you take in the present moment to get where you want to be. We each have a unique story to share and another opportunity to do better each time we see another day. Question is, what will you do with that 24 hours within your day to make your life better and more purposeful?

Yours Truly,

Self-Healer <3

P.S. I am currently working and still friends with the person I was previously in a relationship with. Everything is falling into place for the positive and I am grateful.